The Roller-Coaster Ride Called Marriage

I have two highschool batchmates that married at the age of 19 because of early pregnancy. We see to it that we meet at least once or twice a year to catch up with the latest gossips, happenings or simply just have our bonding moment. Now that I am in their shoes, there is a lot in their conversations that I can relate to. And the topic that we often talk about are the kids, our husbands and marriage. They both discuss problems regarding their spouses. Fortunately, it is something that I haven't experienced yet. The three of us are in the early stages of our respective marriages.

As a starter, I know I don't have the expertise in marriage matters yet. And it is even too early to say that I have a perfect marriage. But somehow, I wish to share with wives like me, the lessons in the roller-coaster ride most of my married friends are getting through.
 

Believe

            Let your husband feel that you can trust him. I know, this is very hard to do especially when your female intuition tells you otherwise. Yet, intuitions can still go wrong. Trusting your husband will make him feel good, not just about you but with your relationship as well. In fact, he will even love you more for it.
 

Don't Nag

            A couple cannot achieve a healthy relationship with nagging. It can only broaden the gap between you and your husband. No husband can ever appreciate a nagging wife. One nagging mother is enough, two is too much.

Love yourself

            When you love yourself, there is so much love you can share with your husband. Not just because you're already married doesn't mean there is no need for you to maintain your beauty rituals anymore. Loving yourself means taking care of your health, your hygiene and of course, being attractive for your partner.
 

Compliment your husband

            There is nothing more ear-tickling for your husband if you notice the good things that they do. Praise him for that. A simple compliment can give him the great feeling of being needed.
 

Be pleasant

            As related to loving yourself, be pleasant when your husband comes home from work. He can endure a messy house but never a bad-tempered wife. Give him no reason to look for another girl. Always welcome him with your smile, embraces and kisses. 

Talk and listen

            Talking is the best way to see through each other's point of view, gradually reaching out to one another and compromise. But talking is useless when neither of you seems to listen. After you talk, it's your time to listen. This way, you will both understand what the other wants to convey.

            I know there are a lot more to learn in marriage. Rough times are still coming. There are so much ups and downs that I have never experienced yet. Nevertheless, I believe that through these ups and downs, I will become, not just a better wife, but a better person afterwards.

By Rose Almond for Maljonic's Dreams